Ok back story: She is a woman who loves verbal validation. In previous relationships her partners excelled at this. Currently her mate is less verbal but is Mr. Action. Real action, that some women would die for. For example she was working all day and hadn't eaten. He did not say or ask her anything he simply showed up with food. When speaking about her signing her daughter up for sports he immediately asked about cost and wanted to help financially (single mother's dream statement!!!). So whats the problem? She needs the verbal.
So it lead me to this thought: We need to step out of outside of our Disney brainwashing (yep I am Disney
So what does that mean? We should give up and stop trying? Hell no it means we strive harder, dream bigger, and ADJUST our expectations. Just so we are all clear adjust does NOT mean lower. That means if you are like me and enjoy someone bringing you food more than you do someone telling you how great you are recognize having both in the same man is probably not happening.
Let me drive it home. If your man is spoiling you with his words take a closer look into his actions, those words could be covering up for the lack of real action. Usually men who are action prone do not have time to spoil you with words.
So I guess my point is decide what you can handle. Would you rather have a mate who takes out the trash, and does other acts of service or tell you how great you are. I believe sometimes we as women wrap our worth up into the man in our lives. While compliments are great knowing its winter and the garbage is out, or the light bill is paid, is wonderful as well.
Since we cannot have it all it all comes down to what we want the most. Whats more important to you actions or words...